Welcome to the diaries of Finn and Sonia.

The origins of Pluralistic Ignorance came from a talk we had early in our relationship about a phenonoma where we would decide to do something neither of us really wanted to do, but were convinced the other person wanted to. A while later, I came across the name of this phenonoma - pluralistic ignorance.

Our friends call us FinnSon because we come as a single entity. A constant drive to talk about relationships in general, often in abstract terms, brought us to this stage. This kind of communication gives us the tools to have better symmetry and understanding for each other, as well as helping understand the dynamic of our own relationship.

One of our best friends called our relationship a matter of efficiency and it is true, much to the amusement of friends and family. It seems odd using game threory to diagramto problem solve with your spouse or recommending negotiation books instead of relationship books. These approaches are efficient, yes, but there is more to that story than just the sheer practicality of the relationship. I treat these tools like a mechanic would use his tools to make sure his car is running. A running car, here, allows the practical grocery shopping to racing down the track. In a relationship, it lets us figure out chores and maintain the romance.

The blog itself is an attempt to dispell some of the pluralistic ignorance that still floats around, both between Finn and Son but also among the world at large.